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Brittany Murphy will be missed by her family and all her fans around the world. Sad to say we lost another great talent in 2009.

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So why do they seem to take delight in outing others? While the mainstream media may make veiled attempts at innuendo when reporting on a celebrity’s lifestyle, that’s about as far as they go. The gay media on the other hand seem not to want the let the issue rest.

There are lots of reasons why a celebrity will choose not to come out. In announcing they’re gay, they run the risk of become a spokesperson for homosexuality or lesbianism – and the bigger the celebrity the bigger the spokesperson they can become. Forever more they’re the one who’s called on for a comment or quote every time a “gay issue” comes to the fore; they become as famous for being gay as they do for whatever it is they do in their chosen profession. And when it doesn’t quite go to plan they can find themselves, in much the same way musician George Michael has spending more time in the press for living the life of some sort of caricature homosexual than for doing whatever it is they do for a living.

But it’s perhaps not so much that Jody Foster’s worried about becoming a spokesperson for the gay community, but that she’d rather keep her private life private. She’s been in the business for over 40 years and is undoubtedly all too aware of what can happen if one lives one’s life in the spotlight. Ask yourself whose shoes you’d rather be in: Jody Foster’s shoes or Britney Spears’.

While the gay community may believe that Jody Foster has a responsibility to come out and lead the way for a generation of young gays and lesbians who might have lost their own way in the world, she’s also got a responsibility to those closest to her. Whatever your sexuality, if you’re wanting a role model you haven’t got to look much further than an actor as high-profile as Jody Foster who refuses to put her partner, or her kids, anywhere near the jaws of the media.

It’s all very well asking an individual to be a role model, but there are very few other professions where someone is held responsible (even partly) for a percentage of a generation’s self-image and emotional stability because of their sexuality.

It’s a widely-held belief that being gay is bad for one’s career – especially in Hollywood, so it’s perhaps understandable that some celebrities are a little concerned about their future career prospects if they step out of the closet. A young man admitting to being gay probably won’t be offered the romantic lead in many movies (although the British actor Ian McKellen is quoted as saying that coming out didn’t affect his career in this way and he still gets offered heterosexual parts). Acting is all about pretending, after all. But Ian McKellen came out over twenty years ago in the UK: most know that Hollywood is notorious for being a man’s world and a woman may find it not as forgiving.

The argument is that when someone signs up for stardom they have to accept to live their life in the spotlight and be a role model for others. That’s the level of responsibility some believe celebrities have – it’s all part of the celebrity deal. And anyone not taking on that responsibility is seen as wanting to have her (or his) cake and eat it too. But is it asking too much to be able to keep one’s sexuality under wraps if one should choose to do so?

And what’s going to be achieved by coming out? Is it really going to help a young man or woman deal with their sexuality knowing that someone they admire and respect is gay but that he or she only admitted their sexuality because of the hounding they received from the press? Does that sound like someone proudly proclaiming they’re gay? And is someone’s deep-seated homophobia really going to vanish just because they learn that Kevin Spacey, who was really good in American Beauty, dates guys?

All kids, irrespective of their sexuality, need role models. Jody Foster, a classy and respected actor who is successful in her chosen career publicly plays tribute to her partner and looks the picture of contentment when photographed with her and their two adopted children is a good one. So is Kevin Spacey who, if he wanted to quell any “gay rumors/ could be seen night after night stumbling out of bars with beautiful women hanging off his arm, but instead seems to prefer concentrating on working in movies and theater, and walking the two dogs he rescued from Battersea Dogs’ Home. That’s why celebrities such as these two make good role models, not because they shout from the roof-tops that they’re gay.

And where is the equality in all this? Julia Roberts is in the same A-list category as Jody Foster, yet publications don’t devote a two-page spread to her sexuality, nor does she have to prove her sexual leanings every time she shows up at an event alone. Jody Foster shouldn’t have to divulge details of her sex life any more than Julia Roberts should have to divulge details of hers.

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What followed the finale of Britain’s Got Talent, was Susan’s breakdown, which, unfortunately for her, galvanized the press into a frenzy. She was admitted to the famous Priory Clinic with what her spokesperson described as exhaustion, which may well be all she was actually suffering, despite speculation that she was having a mental breakdown. Let’s not forget that, within weeks, she had turned from a person known only to her friends, family, and colleagues, into someone whose name was reaching the four corners of the globe. The advent of internet technology and world-wide television meant that remaining anonymous, or even ‘local’ to her corner of Britain, was simply not possible; and therein lies the danger of reality TV. The world would do well to heed the warnings.

Susan Boyle is only one victim of the proliferation of TV reality shows. There have been others whose lives have changed, and not for the better, by programs such as Big Brother. We all remember Jade Goody, who died of cancer only this year. Her life was enriched financially, once she had appeared in Big Brother, but most people will remember her for being foul-mouthed to the point of bullying, on a subsequent series of the program. The producers had introduced her to the inhabitants of the house with the sole purpose of pushing up the ratings – and it worked. The end result shamed her, and the nation, with accusations of racism and bullying. Her star began to fade but the outpouring of public goodwill, once it was clear that she wouldn’t survive the cancer, was amazing.

The program makers are at pains to state that they have a backstage team of psychiatrists, doctors and counselors, should they be needed. This, far from fitting in with claims that their programs do not harm, is an acknowledgment that they are aware that such experts may be needed.

The impact of someone’s participation in a TV reality show, despite the producers attempts to make each series more spectacular and ‘ground-breaking’ than the one before, has more to do with that contestant’s personality, than anything else. Some can handle it with confidence and ease; for others, it will turn out to be the very worst chapter of their lives.ge details of her sex life any more than Julia Roberts should have to divulge details of hers.

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The fan gets to believe that he, too, might one day see his Everyman adored by fans. His dreams of becoming the Next Big Thing are far-fetched if he never leaves his house, but someone just like him can live out the dream in loco reality. On the one hand, the viewer remains safely entrenched in his own world while watching a stand-in play out the drama that he both wants and dreads. On the other, said viewer gets to indulge in some pleasant day-dreams and possibly gain a smidge of self-confidence of the “If he can do it, why can’t I?’ variety. Sadly, most often he gets lazier and more convinced that he, too, deserves recognition without the bother of earning it the hard way.

This is a safe testing of personal reality without any investment. When Susan Boyle failed to overcome, viewers, though saddened, were also relieved. Boyle was a phenom. Had she survived unscathed, her very success would have left many fans sensing their own failures more strongly. More anxiety is not what they bargained for. With her failure (though that word does not really suit her amazing success followed by her sad breakdown under stress) came justification. It brought a return to real reality, leaving many fans comfortable in their ambivalence. Maybe they would never be on stage, but look what happened to Susan! She reached beyond her sphere of reality, and, like Icarus, found her wings melting in the sun. We all enjoy justifying our own behavior. An affirmation of our inability to stretch our personal envelopes can result in a feeling of peace and tranquility.

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Her hubby, David Beckham is one of the most known soccer stars in the world and has made millions from his awesome soccer career and dozens of endorsements.

Victoria insists that her 10 year old Brooklyn, 7 year old Romeo and 4 year old Cruz, will find jobs like normal people when they grow up to give them self respect and self confidence.

Victoria Beckham says, “They bloody well will work! Same as myself, same as David. They’re not going to be the kind of kids that just hang about. I want them to fulfill their passions. I think it’s important that the children grow up and have respect for themselves.”

I commend the Beckham’s for wanting their kids to be normal and work for their money… I am also sure that with daddy’s and mommy’s millions they wont have trouble finding a job, and a dang good one!!!

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